Relationship days... Taking the time out to enhance your personal relationships.

Relationship days... Taking the time out to enhance your personal relationships.

In our lives we get busy paying the bills, doing our jobs, travelling to and from social events, preparing our meals and catching up with friends. Combine that with sleep, the need to prepare our clothing for work, showering, bathing and other activities and that doesn't leave much time to enhance and build those personal relationships which we have with one another.

This is why I believe in the important process of having relationship days. Relationships days are the types of days where you take a few moments to think about who is special, who is important and who you need to keep in contact with in your life.

Life goes by quickly, regardless of how old or young you are and the relationships which you build in life should be considered key to your personal survival and your interpersonal success. Because of this I make an effort to spend at least two days a week thinking about the creation, maintenance and enhancement of my own personal relationships.

I make the time to do this twice a week, because if I did not, I would not be working on myself, the ability to socialise and the improvement of my own and others relations. Relationship days are more than just being cordial, they involve you taking time out to think about who, what, when, where and how you want people to be in your life.

Because of this, I wanted to share with you some of the techniques which have lead to my own personal success with others, in the hope that you too will he able to enhance your personal relationships with others. Some of these techniques are:

THINK ABOUT ANOTHER PERSON!

* Thinking about another person.

- Call up an old aquaintence, friend or that girl or guy you met over the last week and catch up with them.

- Phone them, contact them on social media, send an email or write that old fashioned letter.

- Find out at least three things which these people have been up to over the last week, month or year since you have contacted them.

- Golden rule - Talk less about yourself, keep your focus on them.

WRITE SOMETHING SPECIAL!!!

* Write thanking you letter and thinking about you cards.

- Write something down which shows another person such as your spouce, father, mother, best friend or sibiling that you are thinking of them.

- Write something personal in the letter from as mundane as "thank you for making me dinner" to "You always make me feel great when you give me a huge".

MEETING UP!!!

* Talk about your past when you catch up with one of your regular or not so regular friends.

- Trust me when I say this -.There is nothing more romantic in a relationship or rapport building in a long-term friendship than to bring up what you have both done in the past... This allows you both to look over old times, what you have done and what you might not be doing now that you have both been missing.

* Talk about your future.

- Talk with someone in your social circle about your future and how you see yourself with them.

- Guys, don't just do this with your girlfriends. Actually go out and talk with one of your buddies or talk with a family member and say "I really would like to do XYZ activity in future with you, want to join me?"

- This allows you to plan something fun with a friend and may also enable you to rekindle old or existing friendships/relationships.

- Also, it allows you to communicate better with your relations and keep them in your social loop. Trust me, this will save a lot of social heartache later.

FINALLY!!!

* When you catch up with people in your social circle, break old or existing habits which exist in your social life.

- I.e. Instead of going to that same restaurant, cafe, club or pub where you always catch up as your regular social outing... CHANGE THE EVENT.

- Change allows you to enhance your social relations, do new activities together and also meet new people who may have similar interests to you.

MAKING THE EFFORT!!

I make it an effort to do these things twice a week. Of course they don't take the entirety of my day to do. I often will spend no more than an hour, sometimes more if I am having fun on each of these days doing such activities. Indeed, if you are cut for time you could always do this once a week, but I recommend doing it twice weekly because your more than likely to get positive results and keep for yourself at the very least... A robust ongoing social life.

Count. Daniel John Fogarty, Thursday the 24th of October 2013