Friendships And Relationships
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Three Different Types of Relationships and How to Improve Them!
There are two primary types of relationship between people.
The first type of relationship is conditional and the second is unconditional.
When I talk of conditional relationships I talk of the relationships where each
person in order to make their friendship with one another last, need to offer
something to each other of value. Unconditional relationships on the other hand
are the types of relationships or friendships where one person will love or
respect another with no strings attached. Considering that there are two
primary types of relationships, there tends to be on occasion an overlapping
combination between them on the conditional-unconditional level. This is why I
will be talking about three primary relationships in this blog today instead of
just two, starting off with conditional friendship.
The first type of friendships which you have with someone is
the type of relationships which is conditional - I.e. it is usually a relationship
which relies on a professional business, commercial or similar social-transaction.
This type of relationship is usually the relationship which is built between
employer and employee, manager and the managed and is also the type of relationship
which makes the wheels of the economy of the world turn around. In doing so, this
type of conditional relationship seeks to build trust and trade between nations
on a local, national and global level. It ensures a steady turnover of labour
and ensures that harmonious transactions between two or more groups of people occurs.
This type of friendship is conditional in how it takes place
i.e. if there is profit to be made between two or more individuals then friendship
ensures. However the minute the profit stops or a better conditional relationship
between two or more groups of people occurs, then in most if not all cases the conditional
circumstances around this relationship ends I.e. people lose touch and no
longer talk with one another once their trading and use of produce ceases.
Contrast the conditional friendship with the type of
friendship which is purely plutonic. Plutonic relationships are the types of
relationships where life-long or long-time friendships tend to occur. The best
friends forever found in children who attend the same childcare centre, the
same junior and high school into college. The type of relationship where, even
if the two friends become geographically distant they are able to catch up with
one another on regular intervals.
This type of friendship is the rarest of all friendships to
occur in your life-time outside of your family and tends to take a lot hard
ongoing work between two or more parties in a social group. Inside of the
family unit, this type of plutonic relationship tends to occur by default
between parents and their children i.e. Mother with Daughter, Son with Father
and vice versa in mixed communal settings. This plutonic relationship is usually based upon
unconditional love because it ensures survival of parents offspring and ensures
that they are able to support new life. Additional to these plutonic relations
is the promise of the child to the parent for raising them, that they will look
after their parent into their old age. This type of child to parent plutonic
love is assumed in most family relations but does not always happen due to the lifestyle
choices which may be made by both the parent and their child while together in
their junior years, nonetheless it is assumed and we will talk more about
parental to children relationships in the next blog post.
Contrast again the plutonic love between best friends or
family members with the lovers relationship. The lovers relationship is where
two people conditionally "love" one another in order to have sexual relations
and/or to create family units. The lovers relationship is one which is purely
conditional and relies less on the economics of subordination which is found in
employment and is more orientated towards mutual agreement and circumstances
based upon two or more partners in a relationship meeting one another's
emotional needs.
For each partner to work in a lovers relationship they need
to work with one another and discuss their likes, dislikes as well as the needs
for security and possibilities for their future. A lovers relationship is one
which is based upon conditions where the assessment of two or more people
continue to reassess what they want and how through their companionship with
one another they can get it. We will be discussing more about lovers relationships in two blog posts
time and about an author who, I will recommend in that post to help you improve
the qualities of your own lovers relationship.
Considering that relationships are key to our survival the
ability to meet conditional and unconditional needs in these relationships is
very important if we are to survive both as a species and individuals it is
important to constantly stress and understand what it is that we can provide
another person and what it is that they can provide us so that we can
strengthen the possibilities of each of our relationships and friendships
having a positive outcome.
Count. Daniel John Fogarty, 22nd of October 2013
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